How To Overcome Your Fears and Take
the Challenge Head-On - 9 Things You Simply Must Know
By Kathy Baker
Recently, one of my much valued Subscribers posted the following question at my
website in response to my 'Ask Question' Panel that asked - What's
your single biggest challenge or most important question about what's
preventing you from creating a more SUCCESSFUL and HAPPY LIFE that you want and
deserve?
My Subscriber's response question was - How can I ensure that I do not feel
scared when taking on a new challenge?
In response, here are some thoughts and suggestions that I hope you will also
find helpful -
Fear is one of the major things that blocks us and gets us stuck. It's natural
to feel fear, we are all human. Our life quest is to conquer that fear, take
the chances, move forward, and grow from the experience.
1. The first step or part of the answer is to peel away the layers and look
at what's behind your fear - Ask yourself - What's behind my fear? What am
I scared of? What do I think will happen? What do I worry about? What’s
bothering me? Really listen to yourself and dig deep ...
Keep asking yourself - What is my underlying 'belief' about taking on new
challenges? Where does that belief come from or originate from? What’s really
holding me back? Why? Be really quiet and listen to what comes up from inside
of you. Really listen to yourself, in perhaps a way that you’ve not allowed
yourself to do before … Indulge yourself … You deserve it …
If you can pin-point it, define it, see it’s shape, look it straight in the
eye, then you can know more exactly what you're dealing with and take the
appropriate course of action to challenge it head-on.
Keep asking yourself – Is it rational? Is it a true fact? Does it serve my
purpose or best interests? Does it get me what I want? What is the pay off for
me in feeling/believing this way? Walk through the worse case scenario.
Focusing on fear, allowing it to paralyze you, blocks what is possible and
could flow naturally - your true potential. When we resist our life, we resist
the opportunity to learn and grow.
2. Our beliefs have been formed from our past experiences in childhood and
our adult life so far. Perhaps things haven't worked out at points in time
in the past when you took on a new challenge. Review what happened - What did
you learn from those experiences? What would you do differently now?
3. Our thoughts create feelings and if you think them often enough they
create a cellular remembrance. Think of it as a well-worn pathway - you
create well-worn neural pathways in your brain of thoughts and beliefs that you
hold as truth for you.
Well-worn pathways of thoughts like perhaps – ‘If I take on the challenge, I
fear I'll fail, and then what?...’ Or ‘I
fear that I'll succeed and then I don't know if I can handle the consequences,
the pressure, the added responsibilities, other people's reactions, what if
they don’t like me anymore ...’ Or ‘I
fear I'm not good enough and won't make it, it’s too hard or difficult …’ or
what ever is appropriate to your particular situation ...
When we keep thinking well-worn patterns of thought, we feel the ‘emotion’ –
the 'emotional' reaction we had in the past and your body reacts as if the
feared event is actually happening right NOW.
4. Also, the subconscious mind is programmed to maintain the ‘status quo’
- so whenever you start to rock the boat a little, and start thinking about or
introducing change, your subconscious will go searching through your inner
files for the unfavorable past experiences in an effort to derail you and keep
you in your safer comfort zone. You may want the change in your conscious mind,
but your subconscious is operating at another level.
5. That's why stilling your mind and truly 'being' in the moment is so
important. We tend to spend so much of our time remembering past bad
experiences and projecting them into our future, or spend our time on the 'what
ifs', the ‘maybes’ and the ‘yes buts’ - and these are all being created by our
mind.
6. Quantum Physics and the Law of Attraction tell us that what you spend
most of your time thinking about is what you get and attract into your
experience. So, it’s important to shift thinking time onto the positive
outcome as if it were happening here in the now and experience the 'feeling'
and 'emotion' of it.
7. The answer is to stay focused on the moment and just do it, step-by-step,
stay in the moment, and move forward. Walk into and through your fear and
be proud that you took the steps. Congratulate yourself for having the courage
to take it head-on and challenge it. When you move forward, you'll feel
absolutely fabulous for doing so. Often, we find that the imagined fear we had
around a certain 'thing' is nowhere near as bad as what we thought.
That’s why its so important to focus on the ‘positive’ scenario until we jump
in and just do it and then actually live out and experience the positive
scenario.
8. Another great thing to do to give greater clarity is to ask yourself when
you’re facing a challenge – What would the consequences (positive and
negative) be if I do this? What would the consequences be if I don’t do this?
9. Everything is 'choice'. At every moment we face choice and make a
choice, whether good or bad, whether you move forward or not, you are
exercising a choice, even if you don’t do anything, or back away, or put it on
hold. It's a choice, a flick of a switch.
If you’re in any way pondering the questions – How can I overcome my fears when
taking on a new challenge? - reveals that you're wanting to improve your life,
and you’re not content to just sit back and live your life on default or auto
pilot, so that’s great. You may already be doing some of the above and
sometimes it’s interesting to see something reinforced, or experience a new
revelation.
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Kathy
Baker is
a Success Coach (Business/Marketing/Personal), Law of Attraction
Practitioner, CopyWriter, and Marketing Practitioner. She practices Intuitive Marketing with
Integrity, and specializes in Niche Marketing and Information Product
Marketing. She works with success and
freedom seeking entrepreneurs and individuals in helping them find ways to
achieve their dreams.
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